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Thursday, June 2, 2011

Theravada "Heart Sutra" (explained)

Wisdom Quarterly, Hellmuth Hecker on Khema (BPS, Wheel 292/293)

The most famous sutra is a later addition that did not originate with the historical Buddha. Mahayana Buddhism added it, but it caught on because it summarized an essential and difficult teaching -- the counterintuitive doctrine of selflessness (anatta) reframed as emptiness (shunyata).

The Heart Sutra (prajna paramita, the core of the "perfection of wisdom" literature) glorifies Kwan Yin (Avalokitateshvara, the goddess-bodhisattva who looks down with mercy from on high). The original explanation, it seems, was provided by the enlightened Buddhist nun -- designated by the Buddha as "foremost in wisdom" -- Khema.

While the Heart Sutra makes sense to next to no one, and is instead treated as a devotional instrument for chanting, originally the doctrine was understood as a practice. And because Khema was on a level with Shariputra (the male disciple designated as foremost in wisdom), the seed or rudimentary reasoning is there for making him the foil: The text becomes one contrasting feminine compassion-and-wisdom versus masculine dryness-and-intellectualism.

The topic of emptiness comes up in the context of answering a more pressing question for ancient Indians: What happens when an enlightened person passes away?

Famed Throughout the Land
Once King Pasenadi was traveling through his territory. He arrived at a small township in the evening desiring to have a conversation about dharma (profound matters).

He asked a servant to find out if there was a wise ascetic or brahmin priest in the vicinity. The servant investigated but could not find anyone for the king to converse with. He reported this to King Pasenadi but added that a Buddhist nun lived in the town.

It was the saintly Khema, who was famed throughout the land for her wisdom. She was known to be clever, possessing deep insight, and someone who had heard much Dharma from the Buddha. She was a speaker of great renown, with a ready wit and profound understanding.

The king was very interested and immediately set off to visit the former queen. He greeted her with deep respect and had the following conversation with her:

Pasenadi: Does an Awakened One [usually framed as the Tathagata but referring to any fully enlightened and liberated individual or arhat] exist after death?
Khema: The Enlightened One has not declared that an Awakened One exists after death.
Pasenadi: Then an Awakened One does not exist after death?
Khema: That too, the Enlightened One has not declared.
Pasenadi: Then the Awakened One exists after death and does not exist?
Khema: Even that, the Enlightened One has not declared.
Pasenadi: Then one must say, the Awakened One neither exists nor not exists after death?
Khema: That too, the Enlightened One has not declared.

The king was perplexed and wanted to know why the Buddha rejected these four seemingly exhaustive options.

For the king as well as our own understanding, it is first necessary to realize what these questions imply.

Eternalism
The first question corresponds with the view of all those beings whose highest goal is to continue on after death, spurred on by craving for existence. The answer that an Awakened One continues to exist after death, is the one given by all other religions, including later interpretations of Buddhism (e.g., Mahayana).

Annihilationism

The second answer that the Enlightened One does not exist after death would be in keeping with craving for non-existence.

Because of an urge for definite knowledge and certainly, a definition is sought which could claim that the five aggregates (Sanskrit, skandha/Pali, khandha) of
  1. form (body)
  2. feeling (sensation)
  3. perception (cognition)
  4. mental formations (volition and many others excluding feeling and perception which are treated separately because of their importance)
  5. consciousness (awareness).
These "aggregates" (or "groups" that form a composite taken to be a "self" or "soul") make up sentient existence. The belief that they completely dissolve and disappear upon the shedding of an Awakened One's body (form) is the wrong view of Annihilationism.

Moreover, it is the belief that deliverance consists of the mere dissolution of the aggregates brought about by the disintegration of these factors (as if there were no reintegration of new aggregates impelled by karma that is driven by ignorance and craving).

Compromises
The third answer seeks to reconcile the first two: Everything impermanent in an Awakened One would be annihilated, but the permanent aspect, the essence (the "soul" or atta, Sanskrit atman), the actual personality, would remain.

The fourth answer tries to get out of the predicament by formulating a "neither-nor" situation.
  • This "solution" is formulated with the idea that it is something that words or concepts cannot describe but that still uses "exist"/"not exist" and so was not accepted by the Buddha.
ALL four formulas have been rejected by the Buddha as various kinds of wrong view (miccha-ditthi). For they all presuppose that there is an "I" distinct from the world to begin with.

In reality, "I" and "world" are part of the impersonal experience arising and being identified with because of consciousness. Every aggregate and every part of every aggregate is impermanent, unsatisfactory, and impersonal.

Only enlightened individuals can actually see this directly and thereby overcome all doubt as to its truth. But unless this understanding is awakened in those of us who are not yet enlightened by liberating insight, the assumption is made that there is an "I" -- an essentially permanent "self" -- wandering through the cycle of rebirth (samsara).

It is further assumed -- particularly in Hinduism and heavily Hindu-influenced Mahayana Buddhism -- that this is happening so that the "self" can gradually ascend higher and higher until it is liberated, which is naturally interpreted as an eternity in heaven.

To reject this assumption and its logical conclusions, some adopt the equally mistaken view that the Buddha teaches the destruction of a "self." ("It has to be this way, logic dictates!" they insist, not realizing that logic is useless when the assumptions upon which our logic is based are flawed).

Impersonal (anatta)

The Buddha teaches that there is no "I" or "self" to be destroyed. It has never existed and, contrary to appearances and assumptions, has never wandered through samsara.

How can this possibly be?

The answer is not arrived at by faith, philosophizing, or logically deducing... It is directly observable to a purified and strengthened mind. Our minds are generally obstructed by the Five Hindrances that weaken insight and block liberating wisdom from arising and cutting off the hindrances and defilements of mind/heart that prevent enlightenment:
  1. desire (craving)
  2. ill will (hate)
  3. restlessness (agitation and worry)
  4. sleepiness (sloth and torpor)
  5. doubt (skepticism)
These Five Hindrances are obvious to any beginning meditator. They arise frequently. One realizes they are common in daily life. They often go unnoticed until one attempts to meditate. Then what was there all along becomes unpleasantly clear.

They are elements in a list of ten "mental chains" (samyojana) that are subtle, deep, and hard to break free of even for an advanced meditator: (1) personality-view (sakkaya-ditthi), (2) sceptical doubt, (3) clinging to rules and rituals (as if such things could lead to enlightenment), (4) sensual-craving, (5) ill will, (6) craving for fine-material existence (rebirth in loftier spheres beyond sensuality which most of us crave but here they are crave instead of liberation and therefore act as a chain), (7) craving for immaterial existence (rebirth in the loftiest spheres, extremely subtle and long lasting worlds which transcend materiality altogether), (8) conceit (the tenacious habit or remnant-tendency of mind to behave as if there is a self even after "self-view" has been overcome), (9) restlessness, and (10) ignorance (A. IX, 67, 68; X. 13; D. 33).
  • The first five bind one to the sensual-realm, and the remainder tie one to the fine- and immaterial-realms.
What we call "I" and what we call "world" are in reality constantly changing (composite) processes, not entities: They are always in flux -- forming and dissolving, not lasting unchanged even for a single moment. (Physiologically they are kalapas, psychologically cittas, particles and mind-moments).

They throw up the illusion (maya) of "I" and "world" born into the present and clung to. Therefore, the Five Aggregates are actually the Five Aggregates of Clinging. They themselves, as impersonal components, cling to the illusion of a separate and independent "self" (separate, distinct, and independent of components).

We are not really separate from one another, and the "self" is in no way independent of the Five Aggregates on which its ephemeral existence depends. Another way to say this might be, the "self" (soul, personality, core, heart, pith, "I") is not separate from the elements that form the "self" -- a material body and immaterial sensations, conceptions, discriminations, and consciousness -- and we all have that in common. All "things" do.

"Self" is an illusion arising from the functional integration of these Five Aggregates.

Moreover, Dependent Origination reveals that it is no accident that they arise and that there is suffering (even if, ultimately, as people are so fond of pointing out, there is no one, no self who suffers).

The aggregates, according to Abhidharma scholar-practitioners, cling to their respective objects, as explained below.

Thinking and reasoning with hindered and tainted minds (that are not freed from the aforementioned hindrances and fetters), it is not possible to see the liberating Truth the Buddha created Buddhism to reveal.
  • The good news is that there is freedom! It is, indeed, the case that: "The Truth shall set one free" -- free from illusion, free from rebirth, free from all suffering.
But the heart/mind does not usually see it this way! It often retracts as if it were going to lose "itself." The only thing that would be lost is the illusion, and the aggregates cling to illusion.

How do the "Five Aggregates of Clinging" cling to illusion? By not seeing the suffering, the danger, the first Noble Truth -- they cling by clinging to their respective objects: The aggregate of form (composed of the Four Great Elements or characteristics of matter and their derivatives) clings to form. The aggregate of feeling clings to [pleasant] feelings....
  • There is no entity. The process of "self" is a process of clinging and suffering. "Suffering" is misleading as a single-word translation of dukkha. It means disappointment, dissatisfaction, distress, being off center, insecure, endangered... There is just as much or more pleasure from time to time. This is what hooks us.
  • That "all things are unsatisfactory" does not deny the Non-Ennobling Truth that there is pleasure. Of course there is pleasure or, as the Buddha pointed out, no one would stay.
We are in a predicament facing far more suffering than we are now undergoing because we stay in an illusion, an illusion that most of the time is so completely convincing that we have no idea and therefore seek no release. We just try to make it a little better, meditate a little, ask the devas/bodhisattvas for some crumbs, reduce stress.

The problem is not that there is pleasure. The problem is that there is clinging to pleasure.

What is "clinging" (upadana)? First there is craving, and on account of craving there is grasping, and constant grasping is clinging (attachment). A hand feels something pleasurable, grasps it, then won't let go. The mind finds something pleasant, binds, then grows attached.

While clinging one is blind to the danger, the suffering to come, and the unsatisfactoriness of what is clung to. Even in the height of pleasure, what we cling to does not complete us, does not cure us, does not satisfy us.
  • This is the problem -- there is suffering that stems from clinging. This is the first and the second Noble Truth. So long as it goes unrecognized, the Dharma does not make sense.
  • This is the solution -- there is freedom that stems from practicing. This is the third and fourth Noble Truth. As soon as it is recognized, the Dharma as the Buddha set it forth (in the first sutra ever) suddenly makes sense.
When it does not make sense, rather than straightening out our view, we bend the truth: We wish to tweak the Buddha's Dharma (as Mahayana Buddhism so frequently has done). We wish to cherry pick the parts we like and dismiss the rest as mistaken or irrelevant. In this way it is robbed of its efficacy, of its ability to liberate the mind/heart from clinging to suffering.

What is the first Noble Truth? "All conditioned things are suffering/unsatisfactory." It's true. And from time to time we see this. Yet, the Five Aggregates go on clinging because temporary relief (from pleasure) is all the aggregates know as "freedom from suffering."

A supremely-enlightened buddha has "awakened," has transcended the illusion, has established a cure (called the Dharma) for beings who suffer, and has successfully shown the way to those with eyes to see, namely, a ennobled community (lay and monastic) of enlightened individuals who by following the Path verified it.

The Power of HOW
The way to liberation is to stop clinging to an "I," to become free from habitual views and speculations and to still the mind so that it arrives at the end of its illusory conjuring -- of making enduring entities out of impersonal processes.

How? Not by thinking but by practicing. What practice? Following the Noble Eightfold Path. Then having a competent teacher becomes crucial. If we could do it ourselves, we would be buddhas, not followers of the Buddha. If we fail, we will be heretics misleading many.

The Noble Eightfold Path does NOT have steps. It is a way of going, of wayfaring, of reaching the end of suffering (bodhi and nirvana). The Path is a set of interdependent limbs. It is a single path that is incomplete and ineffective when we abridge it.

Freedom from suffering does not come about by increasing thought processes (pondering and rationalizing) about phenomena. It comes about by mindfulness (detached, dispassionate, unbroken observing) of the arising of phenomena. This detached but constant watching reduces the spiraling chatter and running commentary of the mind.

Only a virtuous heart/mind can gain concentration (serenity, intensification, samadhi). Only a concentration (calmed, collected) heart/mind can gain liberating insight. The Path (Noble Eightfold Path) is therefore divided into these three categories: virtue, concentration, wisdom.

Everything we see, hear, smell, taste, touch, and think, all that can be contained in consciousness, no matter how wide-ranging and pure it is, has arisen due to causes and is maintained by conditions. Therefore, they are utterly and radically impermanent (falling away and being usurped by similar but not identical phenomena, kalapas and cittas to be technical), which are at all times unsatisfactory, impersonal, subject to constant decay and eventual dissolution.

Every (composite, dependently-arisen) "thing" is subject to decay and change. The only (for lack of a better word) thing that is not a "thing," and therefore not subject to decay and dissolution, is nirvana -- the unmade, unformed freedom from all suffering.

Nirvana must not be confused with things: Nothingness (the sphere of the void) is a thing; it is dependent on conditions. Heavens are things; they are dependent on things. Selves are things; they are dependent on the Five Aggregates and the factors of Dependent Origination...

The Four Noble Truths
Therefore, everything is not-self. In other words, everything is impersonal. But the Buddha is not interested in physics. He is not interested in philosophy or speculation. He is interested in the end of suffering. Buddhism teaches two things and only two things -- SUFFERING and the END of suffering.

Suffering does not exist by itself. It arises dependent on the Five Aggregates. With the arising of the aggregates arises suffering. The Buddha traced back the CAUSE of suffering. This exercise, a meditative practice, leads to liberating insight. Such tracing is called Dependent Origination. It is part of the PATH (right mindfulness, a meditative practice that follows and is enabled by intense concentration.

Of course, these four capitalized words are the Four Noble Truths, the shortest explanation of Buddhism; the first two are the teaching of suffering, the other two, the end of suffering.

Because the Five (clung-to) Aggregates are subject to destruction; therefore, they are not "mine," not "myself." "I" cannot prevent their decay, their origination, changeableness, sickness, damage, or passing away.

The conclusion that the self must then be outside of the Five Aggregates does not follow either. Things outside are also composites, dependently-originated. They, too, have their own aggregates. For example, inanimate stones are composed of the Four Great Elements. Animate ecosystems depend on their elements, whatever they may be. They are not independent of them but interdependent on one another (and probably everything else to the extent that all "things" are connected).

The Four Questions
Any designation of the Enlightened One after death is therefore an illusion. It is born out of compulsion to label and name. It is not appropriate and does not apply.

Whoever successfully follows the Teaching of the Awakened One -- the Buddha-Dharma, which is a coherent set of practices not a set of "beliefs" -- is relieved to directly see that the Buddha did not teach the destruction of an existing entity. Like Khema of Great Wisdom, they see that there is no annihilation of self.

On the opposite end of the spectrum, "ordinary uninstructed worldlings" not taught by the Enlightened One, the Enlightening Doctrine, or successfully Enlightened Disciples (Ariya Sangha) live without exception in a world of perpetual destruction.

Even rebirth in long-lived heavens creates no solution. For there too the Five Aggregates are on fire, changing, processing, yielding unsatisfactoriness and further becoming until in time the process continues in less favorable worlds, and eventually in unutterably miserable worlds.

(If any heaven were stable and eternal, the Buddha would have recommended rebirth there. He taught the means, the pathways to rebirth in all destinations. But he emphasized that only nirvana is worthy of experience. Only nirvana is ultimately a refuge [not to be confounded with the Three Refuges, which are not "refuges" but guides to this refuge], secure, peaceful, and free of danger).

Every other state is transient, unable to be controlled, a realm of death. Whatever the aggregates of clinging look upon as "I," "me," or "mine" is constantly vanishing.

It is distressing, and so the mind turns away. Unfortunately, it does not turn away from them. (That happens through successful insight meditation practices). It turns away from seeing the Truth about them.

Without seeing the Truth about them the mind, far from turning away, the mind clings to them.

Only by renouncing (not necessarily giving them up but dropping the clinging to them by achieving insight) these things can anyone reach a refuge of peace and security.

Just as the Buddha's lion's roar proclaimed: "Open are the doors to the deathless, who has ears to hear, come and listen!"

Teaching by Simile
Khema tried to explain this to King Pasenadi with a simile. She asked him whether he had a clever mathematician or statistician, who could calculate for him how many hundred, thousand, or hundred-thousand grains of sand are contained in the river Ganges. The king replied that it is not possible.

The nun then asked him whether he knew of anyone who could figure out how many gallons of water are in the great ocean. That, too, the king considered impossible. Then Khema asked him why it is impossible. The king replied that the ocean is mighty, deep, unfathomable.

Just so, said Khema, is the Enlightened One. Whoever wishes to define the Awakened One, could only do so through the Five clung-to Aggregates and the Buddha no longer clung-to them. Is he the body, its sensations, perceptions, the mental formations, the consciousness? When they are no more bound to rearise in the future, suffering cannot arise.

"Released from clinging to form, feeling, perception, mental formations, and consciousness is the Enlightened One, as mighty, deep, and unfathomable as the great ocean."

Therefore it is inappropriate to say he exists or does not exist, or exists and does not exist, nor neither exists nor not exists. ALL of these designations could not define what is undefinable.

Just this is liberation -- liberation from the compulsion to label, form, and stabilize the idea of a "self" when what exists is only the constant flux of the Five Aggregates. Those groups of factors are never the same in any given moment, but only appear as a discharge of tensions arising from their interaction with the world they are not really separate from.

The king rejoiced in the penetrating wisdom of the nun Khema.

Later, he met the Buddha and asked him the same four questions. The Buddha explained it exactly as Khema had done, even using the same words. The king was amazed and recounted his conversation with the wise Khema the saint (arahant). (S 44,1).

Sources: S 17,23; S 44,1; A I,24; II,62; IV,176; VIII,91. Thag. 139-144; J 354;397;501;502;534;539; Ap II No.18 (verse 96); Bu 26,19.

Friday, April 29, 2011

Royal Wedding (comedy commentary)

Amber Dorrian and the Editors (Wisdom Quarterly)
Monty Python comically explains what British and American governing options evolved from, the "divine right" of holy dictators.

"Ironic. The middle-class Middletons looked fabulous -- elegant, restrained, classy, and the Royals looked like a bunch of chavs. Beatrice and Eugenie -- the goggle eyed kids of the Porks -- looked liked they thought they were going to 'My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding.' One of them looked like she'd shot a deer and worn the antlers. Wow, too much money, no looks, and zero taste is a bad combination. Sam Cam, fabulous" (Sukisue in The Telegraph).

(BBC Worldwide) The stereotype of the medieval British peasant is that of an ignorant wretch. Monty Python's Terry Jones discovers that peasants were in fact literate, emancipated, highly political and legally savvy, house proud and healthy, and responsible for the peasants revolt of 1381.

How wonderful for Kate and commoners everywhere. Yay! One of us makes it to the top by inheriting a nation of subjects and serfs! That's some prince charming.

It makes me wonder though, why do we unquestioningly buy into this terrible fantasy? Every girl wants to be looked up to, but do we want to rule and be worshiped as "royalty"?

Whereas we're the United States, Britain one once the United Kingdom, a multinational EMPIRE that did not keep its hegemony and tyranny a secret. We keep ours a secret, built in secret by economic hitmen and jackals. Of course, it's not us and it wasn't them; we're all victims of our governments do in our name. More cake and parades for everyone!

I want to be rich and famous, too, like Evita singing Don't cry for me, Argentina! But not on the backs of "commoners," which by default means everyone but royals. I prefer castles and mansions everyone can visit and hang out at over a "to the manor born" attitude that means everyone else sleeps in a barn with the livestock.

The wealth on parade -- the royal grounds, jewels, cars, carriages, and architecture -- was all stolen. It is the booty of war, invasions, and conquests, not to mention working on the backs of the Island's own peasants, lords, and patriots.


Thursday, April 28, 2011

Karma: The Royal Wedding Dress (photos)

Wisdom Quarterly
How better to make a splash than to employ a little shock value? It would not be the first time, as Kate's see through college dress (right) shows. Her official selection was see through but longer than expected:

The most photographed woman on Earth, the beautiful Princess Kate Middleton (not to be her official title due to House of Windsor technicalities), has to surprise the world. And what better way than following on the heels of her last runway modeling adventure? We predict that she will be showing off her youthful form. Not since Jackie O's , Jennifer Aniston's hair, or Princess Diana's dress has there been this much made of a fairytale wedding.



But "commoner" Catherine Middleton's story is better because she is descended from coal miners and her prince, combat-ready William, is second in line for the throne. He could actually become monarch of one of the world's great super powers. It is not the US alone but the Old World banking interests (along with Germany) that rule the world by proxy. Weddings are wonderful! Marriages, not so much. Kate Middleton will be the epitome of a British Berketex bride:


British pro-feminist punk mavericks, Crass, perform "Berketex Bribe"


PHOTOS: 1. Sexy, see through wedding dress (fashion-gallery blog); 2&6. Kate's St. Andrew's University fashion show see through dress used to first attract Prince William Spencer (celebritynewsandstyle.com & shinystyle.tv); 3. first view of the partially see through wedding dress by Sarah Burton for Alexander (SkyNews/telegraph.co.uk); 4. new wedding dress options (artndesigns.org); 5. sexy wedding dress (wedding-beginning.com); 7. Prince William and Catherine Middleton (AP); 8. "Love at first sight" (Lin Pernille); 9. official photograph of the wedding dress (telegraph.co.uk); 10. "Heartbreak" (sivgal.blogspot.com).
Why Kate, Why Not Me?
Karma distinguishes beings -- high and low, beautiful and homely, rich and poor, smart and slow, long-lived and short-lived, coupled and alone, and so on.

In the "Smaller Exposition on Karma Discourse" (Culakammavibhanga Sutta), the Buddha states the following:

"Beings are the owners of their karma [their store of intentional deeds, whether physical or verbal or mental, both those ripening in happiness or suffering], heirs of their karma. They originate from their karma, are bound to their karma, have their karma as their guide."

The Buddha urged disciples to tear down the forest of defilements -- states and traits within the categories greed, hatred, and delusion -- the roots of all suffering. In their place, he encouraged them to cultivate such habits as generosity, compassion, and wisdom.

We reap what we sow: Karma
When we experience the fruits and results (states and circumstances) of seeds (actions) we planted, it is because what we planted is finally coming to fruition. Actions ripen opportunistically -- as soon as they meet the right causes and conditions, even tens of thousands of years later.

Without them as the basis, good things do not arise for us. When that good is exhausted, as it inevitably must be, pleasant and welcome circumstances fall away.

"Love at first sight" is no accident but the result of karma (Lin Pernille/Flickr.com).


Good karma is easy to accept, and we have no trouble accepting credit even if we do not remember what we did to deserve our good fortune (because it is usually not done in this life).

It is far more amazing and difficult to believe, but when a thief and criminal enjoys ill-gotten gains, it is only because of former good karma.

"Crime does not pay" because when this bad karma ripens, it will ripen in suffering. It is not ripening immediately. The good one is experiencing is not due to stealing!

It is impossible that it should be otherwise: All the good one is experiencing is being experienced due to good karma. All that we are doing is our present karma, the results of which will be experienced later.

(This clarifies the apparent contradiction that crime does obviously pay since criminals sometimes go a long time without meeting with the negative repercussions of their choices. It is only an apparent contradiction. In reality, good results in what is welcome and pleasant, bad in what is unwelcome and difficult to bear).

Understanding this, beings are wise to engage again and again in meritorious deeds (good karma, any actions motivated by nongreed, nonhatred, and/or nondelusion). It is not every world that one has the opportunity to make good karma -- whether by negligence in superior worlds of pleasure or preoccupation with pain in inferior worlds.

Like attracts like: Good begets good, and bad begets bad. "Good" and "bad" are very unfortunate translations since we have an aversion to oversimplifications. Skillful, wholesome, profitable are all translations for kusala, the opposite being akusala.

These actions are not "rewarded" and "punished" as such; they follow an impersonal law of attraction. They rarely ripen immediately but are able to lay dormant for aeons. Therefore, one should not judge another as "good" or "bad" based on circumstances. For we all have seeds of good and bad, and any ripening is burning that karma off (exhausting the good and lightening our load of bad). The potential we have is incredible. The opportunity we have to do good now, to plant seeds now, to make the most of what we have is even more incredible.

That one should become a queen is not unusual. It would not be possible if she did not deserve it. Envying her or being jealous is demeritorious karma for us. Rejoicing in her good fortune, the ripening of former well done deeds, profitable and ripening in pleasure, is good karma for us now. Sovereignty in the human world is not a very high thing relative to other possibilities: it is short-lived, often mixed with strife, and uncertain.

That same good karma could have ripened in superior worlds where it would last longer, be purer, and be more stable. It is, to give a simile, like being beautiful only in elementary school as opposed to blossoming in high school. We would all wish to be beautiful everywhere at all times for all the benefits it brings, but life becomes more important and significant. For all the good it does Kate Middleton to become a real life princess (actually Duchess of Cambridge), how much better might her good karma have ripened later on?

We do not want to wait, desiring immediate gratification. But waiting would often benefit us, whereas rushing soon leaves us disappointed, unfulfilled, and un-actualized.

Will I Ever Find My Prince/Princess?
An elderly couple once came to the Buddha. They expressed their love for one another, having been promised in marriage to each other from a young age.

Their wish was to meet again, to be reborn together, to be a couple again. The Buddha told them how they could accomplish this and thereby become "twin flames" or "soul mates" in a future life:

The "ideal couple," as they were called, once came to the Buddha and said, "Venerable sir, we married after being acquainted from childhood, and there has never been a cloud on our happiness. Please tell us if we can be married in the next life?"

The Buddha answered, "If you both have exactly the same faith, both receive the same teaching [regarding morality] in exactly the same way, and if you have the same wisdom, then you will have the same mind in the next birth."

Whether or not all of this is done, those bonded by the karma of love and hate (attachment and aversion), will meet again as they have met many times. The business started now is not finished now but rises like flames out of embers again and again. Far wiser is it to let go, forgive, and abandon these habits unless we wish to again meet one another with an instant attraction or animosity.